I had an interesting conversation with a woman at my pool today. I went out to catch some rays before the thunderstorms rolled in, and I expected to spend an hour or two reading my mystery novel. Instead, an older woman exercising in the pool struck up a conversation with me about my book, and it went from there.
I really enjoyed talking to her — she told me about her sons and daughter and grandchildren and lack of great-grandchildren and breaking her femur earlier this year and the long journey of rehab. When she mentioned Israel a number of times — her son used to live there, her grandson lives there, she used to teach schoolchildren about Israel- I conjectured she was Jewish. I soon found out she was, and we began talking about history, politics, and more.
I ventured to ask her about the current Administration’s support or lack there of for the state of Israel (I held my own opinions close to my chest, of course), after prefacing the question with, “I know we’re not supposed to talk about politics in public…” After we briefly spoke about that, she confessed her real worry about the country today was the disfunction and division in our government.
And then she brought up the war on women’s rights.
Of course, I didn’t say what I wish now I would have said. It’s easy to think of responses here, in the comfort of my own home. But there at the pool, with her thoughts and arguments right in front of me, I fumbled for words.
I’ve been thinking about these issues for months- years- my whole life. And at times I have all the answers. Other times I have none.
It’s frustrating to think “I should have said that,” or “Why didn’t I say this?” But I’ll pray for better words to say next time.
In the meantime, here is “What I wish I would have said…”
On Women’s Rights – aka the right to abortion – being threatened:
“I don’t like abortion, but I don’t want my government telling me what I can and cannot do.”
The government tells us what to do all the time. (I did say that.) It’s their job. No one is “forcing” a woman to raise a child — adoption is always an option, and there are thousands of couples in this country who would love to raise those children.
“Think of someone who has been raped — they shouldn’t have to have that child, who could one day grow up to be an alcoholic or have some other hereditary problem…”
It’s not the child’s fault that they were conceived in rape. Why should they suffer for the sin of a rapist? A child didn’t have to result from that union — but God chose to give the world a child through that sin … who are we to choose to kill that child?
“Our government needs to do something about people having guns … the fact that anyone can carry a weapon into a movie theatre…”
I wish someone in the movie theatre had been carrying a weapon and could have defended those people. (I did say that.)
Yes, our government has the responsibility to protect its citizens. … Whether they’re in a movie theatre or in their mother’s wombs.